THE BULLY...

Overall school is going really good this year.  We are getting settled into the routine of things and August flew by! Brock is really enjoying Kindergarten and is making lots of new friends.  Haley has Jack and Margeaux in her class again this year and several kids she didn't know before so she is loving that!  There is one little boy in particular though that just might be the death of me!  Every since Haley started public school my saying has been, "she is only in public school until the first time someone says something so hurtful that he comes home upset and then she will be homeschooled."  She loves school and looks forward to going everyday and I will not let some little brat ruin that for her.  Well, last year she got in the car one day crying and some little girl sitting next to her in carpool line had told her she hated her....let me back up...Haley is not a one friend type child, she is friends with everyone so the thought of anyone not liking her just broke her heart.  The first time it happened I told her to just be nice to the girl and not sit next to her again, the next day she got into the car crying and the little girl had moved to sit by her and told her again...yes that is the sound of my blood pressure soaring through the roof I was so mad...but again i tried to be the calm parent and let her handle it herself...by day three I could see her slowly coming out in carpool (you can always tell what kind of day Haley has had by the way she comes out in carpool, she is either doing this skip/hop to the car or slowly sauntering) as soon as the door shut she got hysterical and I had had it!  I pulled around to the parking lot and it took me 15 MINUTES to calm her down and of course the little girl had been mean to her again...so I got everyone out and went in.  I must have looked mad and it was very obvious she was upset because two of her teachers came running as we went over the crosswalk and could not have handled the situation any better.  They were great!  Well the rest of the year she didn't have any problems and by the end of the year the little girl was nice to her (she was probably picking on someone else!).  SO this Thursday she got up and got ready for school and as we were about to walk out the door, she said she didn't feel good.  I called Lance and we decided to watch her for a while and check her in if she was fine, I took Brock and we got back and she stayed on the sofa most of the morning.  We were giving her the benefit of the doubt b/c tummy aches can be a side effect from her growth hormone and she hasn't lied to us about being sick before.  Well it all came out around lunch that the new boy in her class is HITTING her and calling her names at lunch.  So we talked about it and she told me how Jack and Margeaux had taken up for her and told him to stop and she was afraid he would do it again...Friday morning we get up she is in a great mood bouncing around the house getting ready, singing and laughing, we get in the car, get to the front of the school and right before they get out of the car she starts crying saying her tummy hurts and can she please stay with me...she had gone completely pale in the backseat and I have to say my blood pressure hasn't been that high in a whole school year...she was afraid of this little kid being mean to her to the point of making herself physically sick...
I let Brock out and kept her and drove to a nearby parking lot to talk to her.  Apparently the kid is fine until lunch.  So she wanted to go to school not lunch.  Um you have to know that she LOVES everything about food (she gets that honest both of her parents are that way ;-))  so for him to be ruining her lunch was just adding insult to injury in my book.  I took her and one of her teachers was working carpool so she got out and the teacher jumped in and I told her what was going on, she assured me she wasn't shocked with this child, he is apparently new and a problem and she would handle it.  I went on to bible study and knew i would be checking in on her as soon as it was over.  When i checked back in on her her main teacher was informed of what was going on and like the other lady she wasn't surprised and said she was going to handle it....so she got in the car yesterday afternoon fine and said the day was good.   I get an email from her teacher last night that says he called her 'stupid' at lunch and would I ask her about it this weekend.  I am at such a loss right now, this is a 7 year old child who obviously is taking great pride in making my child miserable and I have had it.  I will be going to eat lunch with her Monday and we have our beginning of the year teacher meeting with her teacher Tuesday afternoon so hopefully we will get a better game plan then because I am so upset!  Please join me in praying about this situation!  I need this child to not only stop picking on her but everyone.  I understand that he is new and this must be his way of adjusting but he needs to find a new way to cope.  Sorry for such a long entry but had to vent and what better place then the blog?!